Hello Sassy family! Have you ever caught yourself thinking about how your view of love has changed over the years? This question came to me recently as I was reflecting on my own journey, learning self-love, setting boundaries, and becoming the best version of me. Somewhere along the way, I realized that the way I understand and express love has evolved just as much as I have.

When I look back at how I viewed love in my younger days, I can only laugh and maybe cry a little. I really thought love meant proving my worth instead of knowing it. I believed love meant being chosen, that someone else’s attention or affection somehow validated my worth.

Now, I see how deeply my younger self tied love to validation instead of value. She didn’t yet know that love begins within, that you teach others how to love you by how you love yourself.

With growth and healing, my perspective has softened and matured. Love today feels deeper, wiser, more intentional. It’s not about perfection or constant validation ; it’s about peace, honesty, and presence. It’s showing up for each other, communicating through the tough moments, and choosing love every single day.

Love now looks like partnership, not possession. It’s not about being rescued; it’s about being respected. It’s a safe place to grow, not a battlefield to prove your worth.

The more I’ve learned to truly love myself, the more I’ve understood what real love should feel like. It’s not about losing yourself to be loved; it’s about loving yourself enough to never shrink again.

So tell me, Sassy family, how has your view of love changed as you’ve grown, healed, and learned more about yourself?

Drop your thoughts in the comments. I’d love to hear how your heart has evolved too.

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Affirmation:
“I am no longer waiting to be chosen. I choose myself fully, freely, and with love.”

Live and Love Fearlessly,

💗Ronni Lauren